Stone cold confession #1: Nurturing Marriage

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02.10.09

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The relationship between the hubs and I grows stronger every day, but I know that it will always be a work in progress. In order to keep a marriage alive and healthy, you have to work at it. Constantly. Just like children, you have to feed the relationship. Nurture it. Protect it. Love it. Then set it free.

Now, I don’t mean that you must end the relationship to set it free. That’s just silly after all the work you’ve done. What I mean is, give it space to mature on its own. Allow your partner to have a life outside your relationship and do your best to support them in their life choices even if they don’t always include you. Ask that the same be done for you.

There is always something to learn in order to better the relationship. Sometimes we just stumble upon it while going trough life. Sometimes we need to search for the answers. Then there are the times when you didn’t even realize anything was wrong until you were forced to think about it.

Now comes my confession.

I’m subscribed to a blog called Simple Marriage. Before you freak out, read what it’s about. Our marriage is not in trouble. As a matter of fact, it’s far from it. The hubs and I do very well on our own to make things work and we’re happy. The reason I’ve subscribed to that blog is simple. To learn more. I believe that there is always room to make a great marriage even greater.

If you thought that was a surprise, here’s an even bigger kicker.

This blog is strongly based on Spirituality and Religion. Yes, that’s right. Religion. Everyone that knows me (and the hubs) knows that we aren’t religious. So why would I frequent a blog like this?

Another simple answer. When I remove the religious aspect of the blog, there are a lot of things to learn from it. For the spiritual and religious couples, you may learn even more. I believe that if more couples (married or just dating) read blogs like this and followed the advice (that best helps them), more relationships would flourish and last.

I’m confident that our relationship has flourished and will last, but it doesn’t hurt to whisper sweet nothings in its ear from time to time.